I know most of the audience here at Candlemonk is from ages 13-20 looking to make some quick bucks.
Even if you don't fall in this category, Welcome!
Feel free to find this post relatable.
I am Shivam, I am 22, a content writer for a SaaS company.
And today, here, I am going to share some realities about growing up that might change the way you see the lives of Grownups!
Most teenagers have a common misconception- adults are completely independent. They can rush off anywhere, anytime without worrying about what our parents might have to say.
Trust me, behind most of those smiling faces, are secrets and pains you can't even imagine bearing!
It's one of the biggest lies you'll ever think or hear. Being a grown-up, yeah you do have the liberty to roam, to traverse the earth, but you also need one more thing; resources like money!
And if you belong to an upper-middle-class family like mine, you'd know that being a grownup is a co-dependent thing, not totally independent!
Well, let's not depress you completely. Here are a few perks that I've seen as a grownup while talking of independence:
2. Domination
Don't tell me you've never envied your father giving orders to you or your family members to get things done. Being an equalist, the same goes for mothers as well (in my case more of it goes to my mother)
Well, even though you might think that being dominant and making all household and other decisions make you a superhero, it is extremely draining.
It drains your nerves, makes you feel tired and at times even depressed.
3. You'll automatically become mature
âI'll mature as & when I grow up!â
Where is this maturity? Why can't I see it? I am supposed to be matured, right? After all, I am 22! Want proof?
Don't believe that you'll become wise as soon as you turn 18. Maturity and wise behaviour come from exposure & practical experiences.
The more you involve yourself in real-life events, participate in college competitions, do office or work from home internships etc; the more experienced you'll become.
I'll translate quote a dialogue my mother said to me when I was young and said I'll mature as I grow up: âMaturity doesn't come with age. You'll sometimes find a 18-year-old being more mature than a 40-year-old person. So, stop being a fool and grow up. And fill the bottles and keep them in the refrigerator, I am not your servantâ
Well, I guess the rest is self-explanatory!
4. They look so cool. Why don't I?
My friends have become so mature. Why haven't I? What do I lack?
They are so mentally strong? Why ain't I?
These were my thoughts while I was in college. When I saw my friends posting such cool pictures on Instagram, sharing gym selfies and doing much more.
Well, let me introduce you to a concept only grownups are aware of! No, they don't talk about it much because they also are a part of it.
FAKE SOCIETY
As people grow up, they become fake. They hide their insecurities, shortcoming and much more behind masks they wear the entire time.
That's why you'll see most people so happy & bubbling from the outside and the same people being sad and broken from the inside!
Thus, don't trust everything you see! It's all a hoax of making you believe that their life is Awesome! Not it isn't. It's fake. It's clouded by lies.
Atleast, yours doesn't!
Well, I do have some more things to share but duty calls (full time content-writer demerits, haha)
So, I'll see you next time, right here. If you liked this, share it with someone who'll feel this information is useful!
