Introduction:
Your husband finds a few things about you very alluring.
He probably won't tell his pals about them. And he has no plans to write an overly sentimental Facebook post about it. In actuality, the majority of husbands would favour keeping this list a secret. These are not only tough for them to acknowledge, but also for them to ask for.
I thought you should be aware because of this.
When I was preparing my book, When a Woman Inspires Her Husband, I polled a large number of spouses who had been married anywhere from 10 to 60 years about the qualities they most cherish about their partners but find challenging to express. And the majority of their responses were similar. Therefore, if you are in any of these scenarios,ponders in your heart.
The fact that you once had feelings for him and, presumably, still do is one of the things your husband finds most endearing and attractive about you. A man prefers to be with women who make him feel successful.
He knows he's doing a good job as a husband and a man when his wife tells him how proud she is of him, how much his hard work has paid off, how much his family loves him, and that there's no one else like him. Let him know that he's still desirable, still able to make your pulse race, a fantastic provider, and an expert at whatever it is that he does.
Men still enjoy a challenge, but they don't like things to be overly intricate. One spouse said, "My wife is an unsolvable mystery — I can't predict how she will be feeling or react because it relies on what she is experiencing and feeling in many aspects of her life and relationships. This is one of the most deep things that continues to interest me." This makes me consider how I might be the kind of husband who might assist her in meeting some of her emotional requirements. Even though it can be annoying at times, this unpredictability actually makes it more difficult for me to pursue her romantically.
When you lose your husband's interest in you, there are still things about you that he wants to know, things you're thinking that he'd like you to share, and secrets in your soul that he'll find it difficult to uncover. be a treasure trove full of mysteries for him to discover!
A woman's heart should be so lost in God, according to Maya Angelou, that her spouse must go looking for her. I've witnessed guys be in awe of how deeply their spouses are connected to God. They occasionally question whether they can ever have an intimate relationship with God. He is intrigued by your capacity for relationship, your willingness to delve under the surface and your commitment to a connection. When you have a close relationship with Christ and are under the guidance of His Spirit, the fruits of His Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control—will manifest in your life (Galatians 5:22-23). What man would not like to pursue a lady who is genuinely pleasant, serene, and patient?
What does high maintenance not entail? a self-assured woman who is clear about her identity and future plans. It's likely that while you were single, your husband was drawn to you by the confidence he saw in you. Therefore, get over any negative feelings you may have regarding your weight, body type, big knees, small chest, cellulite, spider veins, or anything else. He has. He doesn't see all the physical defects you think are so glaring, to be completely honest. He barely gives your body the same consideration or scrutiny that you do. Male eyes are actually rather understanding and "blind" to your physical imperfections, which are frequently exaggerated. He responds favourably when you project confidence in your speech, walk, body, mannerisms, and connection with him.
I was surprised by how many spouses informed me that their wives had started the connection. After some time, their wives suddenly began to anticipate that their husbands would start making the first move. Men by nature have a dread of being rejected, which frequently persists even after marriage. Therefore, a wife initiating long after marriage gives a husband a sense of love, pursuit, and self-assurance. Introduce a hug. Launch a back rub. start making love. He probably realises he still requires that extra push.
Recall how I mentioned a man's fear of being rejected? Even if he has forgotten how to flirt with you, he appreciates your courage and initiative. Talking about household chores that the two of you have to complete is not flirting. It's more like telling him he's excellent at something or bringing up a quality about him that you respect (which goes back to how he loves that you affirm him). It's like to being the cheerleader once more while experiencing him as the football hero. Although they rarely admit it, husbands adore that ego boost, especially from their wives.
Your guy appreciates a cheerful disposition. But if you're being unkind, he won't likely confront you. Her nearly constant good mood and upbeat disposition, according to Dan, is what he finds most attractive about Debbie. A smile or a pleasant remark are always there for me. I never give a thought to how she is feeling. A man would look forward to going home much more if he knows that there will be a smile or sweet words waiting for him when he enters the house. "My wife is really pleasant, gracious, and loving toward others," one man said. She never speaks poorly about someone and always has a kind response for them. She's tender. and she seldom ever does harm to anyone with her words or deeds.
While your husband has different hobbies than yours and undoubtedly needs some "guy time," he adores it when his wife occasionally shares his enthusiasm. My friend Michelle discovered that when she took up his passion in working out, her husband found her to be more interesting and more of a pursuit.
"I was griping to my spouse about how I was exhausted, bored, and pressed for time. He reminded me that while the kids would always take up my time, I was the only one who could prioritise working out. I turned on the radio. I prioritised finding time for my workouts. The children were forced to ride their bikes as I started to run. Years later, I'm no longer the grouchy, worn-out wife. With a cute body and more fascinating topics to discuss, I am the new wife. Together, we discuss exercise, nutrition, and even training. It has in fact sparked a fresh desire in our marriage. Although I try, I can't keep up with my hubby.
9. Your dependability.
Your husband values your dependability, constancy, and dedication to him more than you realise in a society when one in two marriages end in divorce. "My wife is committed to me," one spouse said to me. She has never given the idea that we wouldn't work together to find a solution. That is quite alluring. I require something like that. And that's just another aspect of her that I adore.
10. Your differences.
It has been claimed that although a guy marries a woman in the hopes that she won't change, a woman marries a man to change him. It is real. A husband's wife changing is the last thing he wants to happen. He appreciates how you balance him out and are different from him.
Steve, who has been married for a little over ten years, succinctly stated what I have heard countless spouses say about their wives over the years: "I find her differences charming."
“The single thing that makes my wife attractive to me is her capacity to perform tasks that I am unable to perform, remarked Steve. I rely heavily on her to make me a more useful person, and as I become older, I am more aware of my weaknesses and the things I need her assistance with. Therefore, she is functionally better than I am at things like grocery shopping, remembering birthdays, cooking, dressing herself and me nicely, making the house a home, handling social situations when I slip up, meeting people at parties, and staying in touch with friends.
Conclusion:
One of the things that makes you genuinely attractive—and enticing—to your boyfriend is the confidence you emanate as a woman who is uniquely distinct from everyone else.
