At various points in life we have all dealt with loss..of a relationship or a loved one. Not as in death per se but being separated. 

People surround us, concerned about our mental health and well being and comfort us with reassuring words, saying “it will all be ok” or “ we are just a call away." But whom do you call when you break out in a sweat at 3am because of the memories of a relationship or the imaginary feel of their smiles and skin. Where do you turn to? What happens when you are in the kitchen fixing yourself a meal and their favorite dish is on your plate?

What do you do when you begin scrawling and end up just writing your name and that person's together. 

Whom do you run to? It is very difficult to understand another person's pain. Sympathy maybe in abundance but to tide over it is something one has to be brave enough to do himself or herself.

How does one then go about it?

The answer is within…one has to look within himself or herself. Give yourself time..to heal..to accept…to embrace the fact that it is ok not to be ok. It is ok to cry, to recollect, to reminisce. All these are the stepping stones to healing.

Accepting reality and letting it sink in is a very step to achieve this. This is what takes the longest and is the toughest. You will be faced with anger, remorse, grief and a variety of other feelings. Live all of them. They are a part of your being. They come from within you. Let them play their role while you just hang on. One need not fight all the time. 

Finally there will be a day when it doesn't hurt as much ,or leave you with teary eyes. The memories will still keep coming back. Sometimes in waves , sometimes in floods. Calm down, stop and let it pass. Running away from it only drains your mental peace and nothing else. The human mind has an amazing memory. Painful things are often very difficult to erase. They do remain somewhere resurfacing from time to time and keep reminding you of their existence. Time is a healer. The pain gets milder and milder to a point when you can actually bear it all. 

Sometimes you may float, at other times you may sink. But keep trying to sail and you will be there eventually. The shore will be in sight. You will have your feet on firm ground.