If only it were all so simple…

             In life, we have to make many choices, some are very important some are not but the choices we make , however determine to a large extent our happiness or our unhappiness, because we have to live with consequences of our choices. So on what grounds do you decide if you are a good human or a bad human????

            If you think in favor of another person’s good you can consider yourself to be a good human but what if the other person does not consider your steps taken towards them as a good deed and rather think of you as a bad evil human??Because what you see as good is seen as bad from their perspective.

             But here comes another dilemma which is – are we always suppose to do and say things which are pleasing, welcoming and moral to others in order to become a good human??? Or does this mean seeking validation from people we love and care for?? We thrive in a community and therefore have a strong desire to belong in that community but should we consider it normal? Just because we want to become a good human and want to wear that tag in our neck for life. Never mind even if you do not have an appropriate answer to this because I am also unable to find one yet hahahahaha……

             If I take my own example here, I would say that many at times in life I have been through the struggle of balancing good and bad in me or may be just to keep my focus on the good part. Though I do not seek validation from anyone in my circle or my family but look for answer on how I should decide if I am a good human or a bad one. We respect our elders, agree with them on most of the things (sometimes not), do not prefer to put our perspective in front of them or say what we feel and because of all these traits they might consider us a good human with a pleasing personality but if at the same time you do all the things opposite to what I have mentioned above and as per what you feel is right then…..you know right?? Hahahahahaha

             So I think validation plays a pivotal role among many other factors in deciding if you are a good human or a bad human and also it influences your decision and choices to a great extent but when you are a human who seek no validation from anyone ever then I think there is no bad in you and the point of being a bad human does not even exist here. You do what your gut feeling ask you to do, you try to make decisions on practical grounds instead of emotional grounds, you say what you feel is appropriate, you do not please others by saying or doing they want you to do or say, you consider not to hurt other’s, you stand firm on your takes and this is how you get to know who you are.

             Though you might feel frustrated or emotionally a bit vulnerable but you can always rant later because you know your “SEEK NO VALIDATION” is worth it and for people you are the most feared individual on the planet.