The famous quote "Marriages are made in heaven" is often followed by the sentiment that "after marriage, life is hell" according to many people.

"Heaven or hell, it's all up to us. For a successful marriage, understanding is important, as we've been told. However, in reality, it's not just about one side understanding and sacrificing; it must come mutually from both partners."

The end of the fairytale story always portrays the couple living "happily ever after" in the fantasy world. Girls, attracted to the fantasy world since childhood, often dream of their own happily ever after with their soulmates. However, in the real world, things don't always work out as planned. When their fantasy dreams aren't fulfilled in reality, it can lead to misunderstandings between couples and bitterness towards married life.

Boys are often discouraged from helping their mothers, sisters, or any female family members, being told that society doesn't function that way. They are taught that men are born to protect and control the opposite gender. Consequently, after marriage, they adhere to the same principles ingrained in their childhood, which fail to fulfill their partners' fantasies of a fairytale life.

The key to a successful married life is choosing your battles wisely, a principle that applies to both partners. For wives, it means refraining from fighting over trivial matters like leaving a wet towel on the bed or not putting a plate in the sink. For husbands, it means avoiding conflicts about perceived laziness or culinary skills. Instead, both partners can engage in healthy arguments that help strengthen the relationship. A healthy relationship benefits the entire family and positively influences the happiness of children.

Secondly, spending quality time together is essential. As your life revolves around your kids, it's easy to forget the importance of nurturing your relationship. However, as your children grow and start their own lives, you may find yourselves less central to theirs. Therefore, investing time in strengthening your bond enhances the happiness of the entire family. Additionally, by observing your relationship, your children learn valuable lessons on how to treat their future partners with love and affection.

Thirdly, it's important to acknowledge and praise your partner's efforts to other family members. Whether it's a small gesture like preparing breakfast, taking the kids to school, or running errands for the house, make a point to recognize their genuine efforts. This not only shows appreciation but also strengthens the bond between you and your partner, fostering a supportive and loving atmosphere within the family.

Fourthly, stand by your partner's side no matter what. If your partner has made a mistake, address it privately rather than airing it out in front of everyone. This approach preserves respect and dignity within the relationship, fostering trust and understanding between you and your partner.

As I mentioned, marriages are often thought to be made in heaven, but after marriage, it's crucial to believe that we create our own heaven and reside within it.

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