How easy is to fall in love?I would have rather asked how tough is it to love someone!The answer will surely differ,you might come up with your distinct stories and experiences or might go in that ‘Lala land’ of memories and steal some excerpts to sound more truthful or influencial but the common part for everyone reading it here will be sweet and sour memories associated with it.The experience may differ but to the core the emotions remains same. The one who has gone through it ,has its wonderful experience though the person is with them or with someone else.

Love at first sight,Love forever or Endless love there are variations of love,one may find so easy to fall for it but fails to exit!People try to clear the memories ,make them vanish from heart and mind but they miserably,because somehow this heart taught us the heart of loving,but itself failed to learn the art of unloving…

Isn't love a trap?It completely imprisons your heart,when you are in it and snatche hos the power of reasoning from this so called clever mind,It takes you to hieghts of imagination one time,makes you fall to the extent of Mariana trench another. It fills you with loads of expectations and wishes which are meant to be unfulfilled..The love being most ephemeral emotions,makes lover to do forever promises,Can anything this world be more Contrasting than this?

Your imagination is something what defines you,the unexpected happenings are those which break you to the core.People breakdown completely not because they loved to the extent,but as can't exit out of that love when it is needed,it makes you weak then comes series of chases, request and denials ,you slowly start intimidating yourself,your soul and you start losing! In this world where relationship define you,you start judging your worth by that relationship as the world wants you to ,You fail to realise ,more than loving ,its important to unlove…And again start loving yourself ,your soul!!

Here are the ways to ‘unlove’what you love

1.Believe it,Its not the end-: What does not kill you makes you stronger! It does stands true to each aspect of life. May be you are thinking for now ,that you are devastated you won't be able to come over it ever!You lost everything in life ,The life is just like the Hungarian song ‘gloomy sunday’,Nothing is there to be happy about..But after some years when you will look back you laugh like anything , watching yourself like that,As it not gonna end !!!

2.Lighten up yourself,Be guilt free-

You know what ,the guilt which the heart possess kills us more than anything else in this world it shatters you,breaks you into trillion pieces,you need to realise that you gave everything to save the relationship,to make it breathe a fresh air of emotion and love but it died,as it was meant to be,You could not act as the savior for the relation which is on verge of death and the other one involved is least interested,to revive it. So lighten up youself of this guilt as you did your best..

3.Start knowing your self worth-: You should first of all respect yourself,You are not meant to be just demeaned ,you deserve best keep it mind!Once you start knowing your worth,you will realise how unlucky people and things were,that left you! 

4.Surround yourself with people who actually love you-:

 Try to be away from people who fake it up or express ‘pseudo love’for you,They consist of a bean bag of fake concern ,but actually don't give a damn about you,You must surround yourself with people who actually love you,which is your family and real friends as they are your true well wishers…For them your existence and happiness really matters.

5.Give yourself some ‘me’ time-: You forgot yourself and lost that ‘you’ somewhere,in futile tries of nurturing that dead ,or rather say deep dead relationship , now its time to dedicate yourself,a good amount of time to enjoy ,introspect ,party hard ,go for a long walk and everything else which helps you to explore more,shine more!In short Be ,more you!!

6.Acquire new skills-:

As now,you have ample of time for yourself ,which you stole from a toxic tale, Utilise it at fullest learn something new,grow new.You can learn new language ,a new sport,read the novels you packed up,learn dancing, singing (study says anyone can sing,with lots and lots of practice it is not an inborn talent as described)and playing an instrument as it make you driven towards yourself and increases focus ,at the same time soothes and calms the mind.

7.Try to communicate with new people -:

Try to communicate with new people,it really changes your thought process ,you learn more and grow more as personality.May be you find a forever buddy in it!Just be open for the conversation for the people whom your allows, but be judgemental for this matter , don't trust blindly, listening new experiences and life stories diverts your mind and can be the best way to overcome unforgettable instances,Moreover nothing can beat a good company,there is still no substitute for people with whom you can share things openly.

8.Last,but not least never seek for any support ever!

Ok ,so above point does not at all mean that you should depend over any other person to forget the pain,never make anyone addiction or fall for it again too easily,as hasty decisions have tendency to ruin you,So be open minded,never seek for support as you are self sufficient,Never ever think that falling again into a relationship will heal  your wounds,it might give you way more than earlier one,So don't fall to the trap so hastily….

You have power to overcome any situation if you want to,your will power can surely do wonders!So you are ready to unlove that intoxicating ‘love’,you can!!!