A phrase most of the people either say or have heard other's saying: “ I control my emotions.” or “ I don't let my emotions cloud my judgements.” or “I do not let people or things in my life those who can impact me emotionally.”

Is it really even possible? I met a man , not for me, but someone my best friend liked. Now emotions got involved. Hence a little over judgemental decisions or a lot emotions ignored judgements were about to happen.

My friend taking every decision on the basis of emotions only and the guy, who says, takes every decision on the only base- which does not impact him emotionally or any emotions involved.

When she tells me about her doubts about him, I can not help myself but wonder,  a guy who does not let anyone question his opinions or beliefs, a guy who says will only fall in love with his wife, says that do not fall for him because he will not fall for her , it will impact her badly and he would feel nothing, because he does not let his emotions play with him because he does not care; if he does not care, why bother if her phone was switched off, why delete her number when he felt left out, why care whom she was talking to while he was calling, why always say that he will leave her if she anyhow impact my mental health. Is he preventing his mental health or himself from falling in love? Does he say all this and do stupid things because he does not care or because he is afraid of falling for her?

Does he wants all god and no bad ignoring the fact that with good bad comes too? Is it possible that you are attached with someone which does not impact you in a bad way? Why is it difficult to accept that if anything makes you genuinely smile can make you cry as well? If he does not care then why care that she might make him feel happy or sad ? 

And if all this is because he is afraid , then fear is also an emotion, then why say “ i do not let my emotions take decisions for me”? and if he does all these things because , as a says, he does not care, then why bother whom she is talking to when he himself says that if you talk to only one person you tend to fall for them, why bother when her phone is switched off, why stay when she is upset, why plan surprises for her just to get her sweet smile on her face after a tiring day, why guide her by going out of the way for her career when he is himself so busy? Is getting angry and switching his phone himself because her phone was off not an emotion? 

Psychcentral says “you cannot “control” your emotions. But if you follow the strategies to accept your emotions as they come, you will find that you do not have to let your emotions control you.”

Why people can't be what they say or say what they are? why make life so difficult? why is it so difficult for people to accept that emotions are what drive us, now it is up to us, we let it drive us unconsciously by denying this fact or learn to understand how and why it works the way it works by accepting it. Why people behave in such a way that they get all the good and not suffer at all? 

Whatever it is he is or says, I can only hope that he realises that good and bad are the sides of the same coin and my friend understands that