Dear people who are trying hard to find themselves,

Let me know, how is it working out for you all? I am sure you are sitting somewhere, trying heartsick to tick things on some social media provided checklist. Aren't you?

Travel to unfamiliar lands, go on some solo trips, fall in love, go somewhere they don't know your language, go somewhere there is no internet. Tell me how many have you ticked, and what changes do you feel in yourself?

Do you feel you have achieved something? Do you feel Self reliant? Self sufficient? Are you prepared to take control and decisions of your life? Are you now prepared to pay your parents back for the money they spent on you? Or are you just feeling high of doing something new and adventurous and having a story to tell on social media.

I am sorry if I am sounding like a buzzkill, but do you really think that trying to be like someone else, doing things that make someone else who they are, will make you feel more like yourself? What no one seems to understand, or wants to understand, is that we are all very different, our situations and our comforts are different. So may be, the answer to finding ourselves probably is not in cheating others. 

If you truly want to find yourself, don't you think it needs to be on your own terms, in your own personal space and the only endorsement you need, should be from you? Going places is excellent, doing things you love is good, new experiences are also fine, and if on the way you truly do find yourself, then of course, that's amazing.

But for all of you who cannot do these things, do not make the mistake of thinking that this is the only way. The way to finding yourself probably doesn't even need you to leave your room or your comfort. What it needs is much harder. It needs honesty and love and clarity to watch what you are doing and why you are doing it, reflection and control of your actions and reactions.

A high always passes, but if you had actually discovered yourself by then, then It wouldn't bother you. You'd have learnt to be at peace. You see it's not about where you have been or what you have seen. It always about who you are, when no one is watching and one it when it's just not about you.

Just saying.