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The reason I am writing a blog on Toxic Families because it is something which I have constantly seen on many platforms.People coming out and sharing their stories of being judged and taunted for the imperfections they have.This happens especially in brown families,being a brown kid, I myself have experienced this kind of treatment as well as heard it from a lot of my friends.
In India there is one thing which keeps haunting the minds of brown parents,that is “If you do this,What are those people(society) going to say about us”."Don't spoil our name!"."If you go against us then you'll see our dead face or If you do this then don't show your face again". I guess not everyone but most of you must have heard one of these lines if you go out of your way to do something you like.Brown kids are subjected to a lot of ill-treatment since childhood whether knowingly or unknowingly.
Parents think that they are correcting their child for their betterment but it's not right in most of the cases.Some parents say it a bit harshly but the fewer section of parents explain their child in a wise manner. Brown parents keep telling this to their children,"If you play outside in the sun,you'll get dark,then who'll marry you?".If you eat so much,you'll get fat,then who'll marry you?"."Dress properly otherwise who'll like you?"And the list goes on and on.
There are so many restrictions imposed on brown kids and the only thing that matters to brown parents is that,"My kid should get good grades so that I can boast about them in my family functions".One thing which I got reminded of by mentioning family functions is that,the relatives also leave no chance of taunting that kid.If that kid is in school and is average in studies then those relatives start boasting about their child and make that kid think low of himself/herself.If that kid is in college then again they either start asking them of their future plans or their grades and if they lack in any of them,they again boast about their children.And if that person has a stable job but isn't married then there comes the next question,"When are you planning to get married?".And even if you get married again another question."When are you going to have kids?".The list of questions just doesn't stop.
Some kids are also not allowed to go on a night out with their friends,or even for a normal hangout.They tell their kids to not sleep with anyone until marriage and then asks them to have kids with a stranger which sounds so illogical.There are many such things which happen in Indian families which really bothers me.What are the things that bothers you about Indian families do mention in the comment section.
