Firstly, Parents always ask their children to respect them from their own perspective, but they sometimes forget that respect should be inner generated i.e. it should come from inside and should not be forcefully.
No one in the world can gain respect by their own wish, if they want then for that they need to behave in such a way that it creates a huge positive impact on their child's mind.
The Fix: Think about your overall behavior first and then try to analyse all what you really deserves. Don't expect too much or anything which you don't deserve from your kids.
2. Yelling, shouting to create discipline
Most common mistakes parents makes when they try to discipline their child by way of yelling at them, scolding them, speaking in a harsh manner, maintaining angry voice, comparing them with others continuously or sometimes even insulting their children also.
Don't forget that gentleness is a key to everything, we are in a world where no one will act according to our wishes, so you want to get things done from your kids then always give them advice and not the instructions.
The Fix: Think about how you should spoke first and only then try to teach anything to your kid. Discuss the problem with your child in a gentle and respectful manner and also no matter how angry you are, try to remain calm and loose your temper.
Most of the parents compare their kids with others but forget to analyse the strength of their own children. i.e. you are not good at studies…..look at him/her………..….OR you are not good at cleaning/ arranging things…look at him/ her………..From these behavior your child gets very inconsistent and improper message.
The Fix: Give your child clear and realistic list of expectations from you. And if they don't follow through, then also give them consistent set of consequences for not following . Be gentle and consistent in enforcing the directions.
Continued to the next part…… PART 2
