I will obviously not cover all types of haters and stalking at once. Thats why these blogs come in series. For now lets talk about insults, provoking and slander.
Your friends tell you "not to react, to ignore".
You feel offended, abandoned. You feel like they are just indifferent, they don't want to support or defend you, and they are pretending to care. They haven't been in your shoes. It is so disappointing.
Those who "bark" at you have friends who are putting fuel in the fire. But your "cheerleaders" suck. It almost feels like betrayal.
The problem is, they advice you well but yes, they don't support you. They don't support YOU emotionally. Support does not nesessarily mean they should join the drama. They don't explain WHY and HOW you should ignore. Let me be that friend who explains the advice.

- WHY you should ignore?
Not in every case you should ignore. You should just learn to respond, not to react. And not everything needs to be responded to. A drama situation is not a tennis game where you have to hit the ball back every time it flies your way.
You should not ignore everything, you should know when and how to respond, and you should only act after you calmed down if you were triggered. If you feel provoked, get off the app, and chill. Do something for distraction. Words said in rage can come back like boomerang and slap you back on your ass.
Pause and breathe. How bad the situation is: is only your opinion.
It is easy for me cause I have always not been hot-headed. If I am attacked, i feel anything else besides anger. I can feel offended, brought up to tears, arrogant and wanting to ignore, confused. But not agressive. The agression trait does not exist in me. I have never been known for screaming and cussing in rage throwing dishes at people. Although i do say the F word when i drop something or if i trip. But it's different.
If you are hot-headed all you can do is try to master your patience.

So short tips:
- When you feel provoked, pause, get out and think. Maybe talk to someone in private. Or listen to your favorite song. Or go poop. Whatever works for you.
- Do not use foul language if you are responding to hate. You can ALWAYS express yourself using normal words. If you wanna spice it up - use sarcasm, but do not cuss.
- Do not insult back. No matter how much you want to. Instead of insulting, point out the hater's insults which were unfair.
- Think through what you are planning to say. How will it benefit you or will it cause more confusion and anger from your hater or other people who might misunderstand your intentions and question your intelligence.
WHY?
- It is not a timed chess game. It does not matter how fast you respond. The only points from whom you will score, will be the audience with popcorn. Those who entertain themselves by dramas are not your true friends.
- they say "If you bark back at a dog, people will not see the difference between both of you."
If you insult back, you will stoop to the hater's level.
- When you use foul language, people will miss the point you are trying to make. You will only sound like an angry stray dog lashing out.

In result you will comport yourself with dignity. No, you will not gain more comfort on your side. In fact, the "loud" hater will gain a little more "cheerleaders". Because most people who express their opinion publicly on whose side they are, are the ones who are there just for the sake of the entertainment. Gaining loud public support should not even feel like it is your goal result.

All the right people, who are mature and intelligent will be on your side. Most of them are quiet observers and are not clingy. They will come to you. All of the circus audience should go to the "Circus" to watch the clowns, and the intelligent ones will be around you in your "university". You will only grow emotionally and intellectually if you are surrounded by people you want to learn from.