Yes! you are reading it correct…

why should you teach your child to fail…..

As parents we don't want our children to go through the pain and suffering of failure and that is why we encourage them, push them and at times even force them to succeed . 

But the question is how can we teach them to succeed if we don't help them understand the process of becoming successful.

Most children are scared of failing because the pressure to succeed is so strong, that they fear failure, it is not an option we give them as parents and if god forbid they fail it is indication of catastrophe and breakdown. 

 We forget that not always will our child succeed in life. I am not only talking about big accomplishment but also about little things in life. not always things will be as per their choice or liking.

As parents its our responsibility to teach our children about failure also. we need to accept and understand that acceptance of things in life and learning to move on is a life skill which we need to teach them.

We need to change the thought process and help our children see failure as an opportunity that will make them adaptable, persistent ,accepting, humble and responsible adult.

Then let them fail and let them fail again and again….

let us understand how teaching our children about failure will help them.

Failure can teach many important lesson about people around us our circumstances and life in general. All these experiences will help them build confidence and positive self esteem for them selves. they will be socially better adjusting adults.

Failure will help them understand that there are different perspective and approaches to a single situation ,this will help them be creative, motivated and adjusting.

Once you help your child navigate failure successfully you will see the change in their attitude towards things and they will become more resilient, flexible and strong.

Once the child learns how to fail and how to process this positively without being judged you will notice they will never give up and be accepting and open towards any change .

How do we teach our children about failure?

first and foremost change the mindset around failure. do not make it end of the world instead make it beginning of a new journey for your child. 

always praise their efforts not the result then they learn its okay to fail but not ok to not try, efforts matter consequence can differ.

validate your child's feeling and experience do not belittle it or ignore it but at the same time let this be an opportunity to reframe them.

help them process failure by asking them to brainstorm and think of ways they can plan things or solve them in better manner.

let your child reflect, reframe and adapt not only on the task but also on emotions and feelings they have so that they can learn how to process and navigate through negative and conflicting emotions also.

once we teach our children to fail we teach them that failing is normal part of life and lesson in perseverance, determination and learning.

So next time if your child is scared to fail or fails…

let them know…IT,S OK TO FAIL…