Love marriage is said to be a bond between the two individuals who personally know each other before the marriage and has developed a sense of love and understanding after which it becomes official after the marriage while it's same in the case of arrange marriage both the individual is introduced to each other either by their parents, relatives or in modern time through social media thus it is fairly true that there is no understanding and love between them before although efforts were made from both families to ensure that they would meet each other before the official announcement of marriage. It is considered to be an old form of marriage and by the times' people are considering it outdated which is true from the fact that 'how can anyone marry someone without knowing each other'.
Merits and Demerits of Arrange Marriage and Love Marriage:
In India, love marriage is approached from a negative point of view. It is believed that whosoever follow love marriage is not in the context of typical Indian society. Modern era people are considered to be a pillar of changing the obsolete thoughts of our typical Indians. Fairly from its name love marriage has its biggest advantage as the individual know each other before the marriage the barrier of misunderstanding, misconception, already has been broken. They both can settle after marriage smoothly there would no time required for understanding each other. Moreover, it helps you to choose a compatible partner for you there is no random with whom you are going to marry without knowing the nature, thoughts and intellectuality of others. In most cases, love marriage brings two people from different community, class or religion this breaking the border of social un equality. Notwithstanding its benefits only it may also have some disadvantages as there is a lack of support from both the families in many cases thus making both the individual in mental depression. If there is a difference of thoughts in the sphere of one's life goals and other aspirations in one own life can lead to a reason of regular tension causing a problem in mental health and further, it enhances divorce also if the matter is not solved mutually. It is also difficult to get financial support from family in case of recession and leads to suicidal attempts.
Now came onto arrange marriage it is considered to be as the per the rules and regulations of our Indian Society. It is seen that pairs in arrange marriage gets support and guidance from family ahead in their future. Arrange marriage doesn't conflict with the views of our culture. It brings you close to your family and relatives. Pair can acquire help from family in case of any mental, physical or financial problem. But as every coin has two faces it also has some disadvantages as the pair is not aware of each other anger and temperament thus causing separation. You are not aware of your partners' liking, disliking, many times you have to adjust according to your partner sacrificing your liking. The Dowry system plays a major role in the failure of arrange marriage families spent too much on dowries because of self-esteem and pride of their in society thus leading to financial problems in families and also spouse getting threats from husband's sides about dowry can lead to separation in their relationship. Dowry from ancient times is a major ritual in marriage which many times leads to bitter the relationship between the pair.
As living in Indian Society, I came to know more about what are the views of Indian people towards marriages. Back in 2016, my brother who use to love a girl from another religion approached my father for the marriage but he was scolded as my father has this old mentality that we know what is better for our future. Moreover, my father was thinking that if he will allow love marriage in our family it will lead to a loss of our self-esteem or pride in society. But after my advice and suggestions, we collectively decided. And first love marriage happened in my family. Since then the thought process has been changed about love marriage. I am not saying that Arrange marriage is a curse to Indian Society our parents should have the right to decide our future as they have nurtured us from the child they know what is good or bad for us but we should not see love marriage from a negative side.
In some cases in our society, love marriages are officially accepted by the families and solemnized by our families, these marriages are called arranged love marriage. In this situation, either boy or girl introduces himself or herself to another family and finally, collectively the proposal gets accepted by both of the families and marriage happens.
Though both Marriages involves the mutual consent of both the parties before marriage but yet I feel personally the person you know before the rituals it became much easier to spend a life with him or her. I think Arrange is not a curse to our society but it is also not an essential element of our culture.
