This is something I realised a few months ago. I mean, I have known it but it hit me lately and I won't say I was affected by it deeply but it just put me in place or got me thinking. 

Let's talk about Yes and No; more importantly the latter because we don't give as much importance as we give to the former. It isn't easy to say No at times depending on the people and the circumstances and at the same time, hard to receive a No from the other end. I want to talk more about the receiving end than the giving but let's give it a go. 

Like I said before, telling No can be difficult depending on the person or the situation you are at. However, it is you who are making the decision and no one should be doing it for you. So, if you don't want to do a particular thing when asked to, don't do it. If you aren't okay or comfortable with it, just say No. Because that is much easier than going through something you don't want to go through. So don't be afraid to say No to anyone irrespective of the person or the situation. However, there are exceptions but otherwise, No it is. 

Now let's talk about the receiving end. Just like it is important to say No, it is also equally important to hear many No's and that is the hardest part for everyone. We can't take No for an answer. The only options we consider are: Yes and Maybe. 

For instance, if you are proposing to a woman, the only answers you prefer are either Yes or Maybe. However, there is another option that is not an extra option but it is equally important as the other two but we never want that option i.e., NO. And that option must be accepted and respected just like the first two. Maybe is an additional option however it can be the main option and that doesn't mean you eliminate the existing one to fit the other.

Q. Do you love me?

A. Yes, I love you too.

Q. I love you. Do you love me?

A. I am not sure. I will think about it.

Q. Do you love me?

A. No.

You should be prepared to hear all these answers and not eliminate them to avoid getting upset. Same with job interviews or applying to universities, you should understand that you will be either accepted or rejected. Nothing in between except on rarest occasions. 

No's are hard to digest initially but you will realise it is meant to happen as they aren't meant to break you, but to make you. So what if you hear a No, it's not the end of the world. You have another option and when you set out to achieve, never hold on to the No's you received because it's not worth it. Respect that anyways.

If a woman rejects your proposal, accept it and respect her choice. Maybe she isn't meant for you. If a university rejects your application, accept it. That is not the only university in the whole country. There are plenty of options. Same with the job or internships. all of it happened for a reason that we wouldn't know then.

So don't take the Yes's to head and the No's to heart. It is all meant to happen and you deal with it accordingly.

That's all for now. Thank you so much for reading. I will see you at the next one.