Rejection is a fact of life, we would not be human if we were not rejected, it is an emotion that is associated with negative thoughts and feelings such as anger, frustration, shame and failure.

It is a harsh reality, we may have the best of intentions but things do not go our way and we may do our best and still get rejected by those in authority who decide we are not good enough.

There are some forms of rejection that we have deal with at some stage of our lives. They are:

A) Rejection at home by family and relatives is one of the most common types of rejection, it could be from your parents who think you are not studying or working hard enough, your siblings who view you as a competitor and your relatives who are able to find fault with whatever you do and are convinced that you are good for nothing.

B) The next stage is rejection at school, where you find that your classmates think you are different and you are rejected and not considered a part of the group, this happens in the workplace too where you find yourself isolated especially if you are a new employee, the seniors will avoid you and act like you do not exist.

C) A relationship whether casual or serious with someone is the biggest challenge of life and things can go wrong very quickly, you find yourself rejected which can affect your health and wellbeing.

There are many other reasons for rejection which makes us behave in certain ways, we need to overcome rejection by using the following ways:

1. Rejection is not the end of the world, we cannot live in fear of what others say, people have their own reasons when they say something negative, you have to use your judgement and make the rejection work for you and not allow negativity to get in the path of success.
2. We must remember that not all rejection is bad, there are times that it will work for you, everybody is not against you and sometimes we have to use the feedback to improve ourselves and change our behaviour to move forward.
3. It is important to know yourself, nobody can take away your natural abilities from you, just because you were rejected does not mean that you are worthless, make an evaluation of your strengths and weaknesses and decide if there is something that needs to be changed for the better.
4. Being worried and anxious all the time about past failures and rejection is not going to change your current situation for the better, one needs to change with the times and keep themselves updated in order to avoid rejection.

Finally, there is no way to live without rejection, we need to change our way of thinking and learn to adapt and behave according to the needs of the situation at any given time.

Rejection is a normal part of our daily lives, what is important is how we react to it in a way that it works to our advantage and we can live a happy and successful life.