Our Indian society is full of old and outdated thoughts and believes. With the time, there has come a change in the society's views but one thing which has not experienced a significant change in it is the fear of society. This is the most common and main problems of the people of this society. They before doing any thing firstly thinks about the society i.e. what the society will think about us, how it will react, will the society approve this thing or oppose it, will everyone start talking about us…such questions come into the mind which is the main stopper in modernism. Their base of thoughts formation is the society and not themselves or we can say that their thoughts are society oriented. I am not saying that go against the society and do what ever you want but the point is that firstly remove the fear of society and try to change their field of thinking. Only then the society and its people can grow and develop.
We in our day to day life see this main problem in different context of living. If a girl of ours is raped or done something wrong with her, it is seen that most parents don't raise their voice against such crimes due to the fear of losing respect in society and such negliegences has made India a country where women are not safe. Also, most parents don't allow girls to wear such clothes which will show their body to others,they don't even allow a small cuts in their dresses because they think that society will treat them as persons having no shames and who have liberalise their girls completely and the boys will have a wrong sight over girls. Instead of it, we should encourage the girls to fight against something wrong done with them and should not bound them to homes. Also,girls are not allowed to stay outside the homes late nights and do talkswith the boys because of the conditioning of themselves by society.
Other thing is that when one wants to start a business and due to unavailability of funds, they think to raise loans, society opposes it says that what the benefit of such business which is started with other's money. Instead, you should encourage them to start and grow the business because in long term, it will lead to growth of country and the society.
The people of our society to show off to others spend over their limit, because they have the fear that society will think that they are poors and have low standards and respect of theirs will get low. Most people suppress their children's dreams due to society's fear. They get them early to work as children of others are earning,so why their ones should lag behind... such is our society.
We should always keep it in mind that society cannot see your happiness and they only structurise your thinking so that you always remain low and they grow up. The society, its people always will say something but don't listen to them and listen only to yourselves. Do not take it as ignore them but be mature and not suppress your thoughts and mind under the pressure of your society. Don't fear from this society, otherwise you will lost you from yourselves. Be the courageous have believe on yourself that you are right and doing nothing wrong.
Remember :
सुनो सबकी पर करो अपने मन की।
You are the writer of your own story.