Sometimes, we find ourselves to be surrounded with some people whose attitude towards life or way of living life itself, becomes an inspiration. And,may be, they are very much ordinary like you and me and they do not belong to the so-called celebrity category, but the zeal with which they used to celebrate life, just stand out them from others. Today, I am going to discuss about such persons in my life.  

                 Mitali (name has been changed)is a Head Mistress in a Government aided school. Since her childhood, her life has been run on the plateau of struggle with challenges, despair, hopelessness. Still, she never forgets to be her own light. Her father was a patient of Parkinson's disease (a severe neurological disorder that used to impair the normal activities of brain). The financial run of her family was not well at that time. However, after completing her academics, she managed to crack the job of a school teacher through her hard work and perseverance. She always knew that she must be financially established to be a support to her family. She has been posted at a rural area that was 357km away from her hometown. New city and new challenges appeared. But withstanding all these challenges, she has become the idol of her students. Her students used to call her the lighthouse as she has enlightened the life of many pupils of that remote area,who were always deprived of the proper education and most importantly,the attachment and affection of a true teacher. By this time, her father died of that deadly disease and her mother, along with her family became desperate to get her married off. Gradually, she had to give in to the social protocols though she herself was very much doubtful about the institution of marriage. Her fiance was an engineer and it was a pure arranged marriage.  

          Inspite of some doubts and hesitations, Mitali gradually accepted the new scenario of her life and was ready to embrace the change. As she got a little opportunity of having the touch of affection from her father, her father being on bed for so long due to disease, she expected of having a man as her husband who would be her shelter, with whom she would share and shoulder the responsibilities of life. She dreamt of having a friend for lifetime. Little did she know that the toxicity of her husband was going to upheaval her hard-earned life. After her marriage, she found a lot of difference of opinions with her husband. But she thought it to be okay as each individual is different from other. There has to be the difference of opinion. But there should be minimum respect and tolerance for other's opinion and an urge to listen to it. But that was missing in their relationship. Day by day, she discovered some unwanted layers of life which was beyond her expectation. Her husband was basically a suspicious guy who knew very efficiently how to make a chaos out of nothing and this mental torture was soaring high. Even after the birth of her darling daughter, the situation remained unchanged. A person, who has been the lighthouse of many, found herself to be in dark hole where a single ray of light was missing. During those days, she was constantly thinking of her abusive life. What was her fault? Why did her husband behave so inhumanly with her? Why was she deprived of the love and care? Didn't she deserve that! What had she done? And this over thinking made her a patient of depression. 

A lot of counselling sessions were going on, but in vain. She tried to be happy spending her time with her little daughter. But one day, again, her husband accused her of being incapable of managing the household chores and blamed her to be over attentive about her school, her profession. Out of rage,he became furious and started breaking the things scattered around him. The situation got so worse that her little daughter fall sick and traumatised. That day sparked her life. She just made a firm decision of eliminating her husband from her life. It seemed next to impossible to get a divorce from her husband as she had an aged mother who was ill and most importantly, mental tortures used to have little evidence. Physical pain can be seen,but the emotional agony can only be sensed. Therefore, she decided to take help from a mentor who would be able to understand the crisis she was in and would guide her to build a cosmos out of this chaos. She was on the threshold of being broken totally and was simply fade up of living a rotten life. Most importantly, she did not want her daughter to acknowledge her mother as a weak person. She must be the shield to her daughter. Coincidentally, she came in contact with a person, namely, Barnali Iyer(name has been changed)through social media. She has been a professional life-skill coach. After listening her story, Barnali identified her husband as a psychopath and mentally sick person and unfortunately, no medicine or medical assistance could change such persons. What should be changed was the perception of Mitali towards life. Through out the eleven years of her marriage, she just thought of how to be at peace with her husband, how to get rid of the sick situations, deliberately created by her husband. Therefore, her brain has been conditioned to think over something that involved her husband again and again. Her thought pattern has to be changed. However, it was not easy for Mitali as her brain has been accustomed to such suffered thought pattern. A series of yoga,meditation sessions were going on along with the telephonic conversation and training from her mentor Barnali. She came into this realisation that her husband was using her as a tool. His mind tried to seek attention from her through creating chaos continuously. And,she failed to understand his tricks and fall a prey to his abusive nature. She finally realised that life is larger than anything else. Her life was not gifted by her husband. Her husband was just a part of her life. There was the rest of her life,apart from her husband, that was ready to embrace her in this new journey of self development and soul searching. 

Finally, she decided to ignore her husband, and the thoughts related to him. She started keeping herself busy with her job. She associated herself with an N.G.O. She contributed an active participation there. Helping people under crisis was a new enlightenment to her. Her insight has been opened. She felt that she was not alone battling to survive. Many more are there,who have been fighting the same pinch of life. Besides this, she didn't leave a single effort to motivate her daughter towards a better future, be it her education, or learning self defence through karate. Her daughter has become a refuge to her. By this time, her husband became quiet and less interactive all of a sudden. His wife did not give him any attention and his daughter has grown gradual grudge towards her father. Not a single person was there in his family, who was willing to talk to him. He was a completely deserted person. He dare little to talk to his wife. Rather, he was awestruck and shocked to witness this new stature of his wife. He was simply abandoned by the family. Now it was the time to turn the table. The pain,he had given to his family, was shot back to him. Karma does not spare anyone. After a few years, Mitali got promotion. She has been appointed as the Headmistress of a school. By the grace of God, this school has been situated near her hometown where her aged mother lived. Therefore, Mitali just grabbed this opportunity of living her life on her own terms. She,along with her daughter shifted there. Mitali successfully nurtured the life of her daughter even after handling all the professional hazards. She was at peace with her own mind, her own life. She kept herself away from any kind of toxicity. Life continues to be pronounced prominently through her courage and tenacity to go beyond the desert of scorching pain and pathos.