The year is about to end and with it I want to let go so many habits or grudges that somehow made my life miserable. I have always believed in keeping people happy,putting myself in the second position, be it friends, be it family aur just colleagues; it has always been about the other person first. I always did that because I have never been a priority to anybody. I have never being listened to, so I used to try to not make the other person feel the same way because I know how much it hurts. But one thing you need to understand is when you give people too much too soon then they really start taking you for granted. They don't think of you as a person but they think of themselves as the most important character in your life. Don't ever do that. Stop being there for people every time,first ask yourself that do you have the mental space to take the load of someone else's pain? Ask yourself this question every time somebody tries to burden you with their problems. Depend on yourself, trust yourself, take your own decisions, work on them, if you want to go on a trip then go,don't wait for anybody. You will eventually meet people on that trip. I know things can go really wrong but that's how you learn. You either die or you come back home but in both situations you have a lesson learnt.

 Second lesson that I learnt this year is how important is to be financially independent. Don't rely on your parents or on your partner or on anybody. If you have a perfectly working body then no job is a small job. At the end of the month you should have your well earned money in your account. Try to spend less in the starting, build a life first. Then spend later on according to your moods.

And last habit to drop is to stop giving people second chances. They know what they did to you, if you were really important to them then they wouldn't have done that the first time but they still did so stop giving them second chances. Stop playing with your mental health if your mental health requires boundaries then set them,do something for your own self. You should be your number one priority anything else doesn't matter.