I've heard people say that life is a beautiful gift, but what gift comes with baggage we didn't ask for? Whenever we see people upset, or sad we lend them our polite words, 'you don't need to be sad, I'm always here for you', but is that enough? Are you there for them? Lately we've been so less empathic towards ourselves let alone to others that we don't even remember what empathy is. Look at us, assuring people that we will stay with them, while carrying our own baggage that life has filled for us that restricts us from actually staying by our words. No matter how much we try, we lose something. We fail in something while trying to win over something else. No matter how much we want to stay right next to the people and how much we want to look after them, something stops us, something makes us give up. And gradually giving up on people feels so easy that it does not even bother you. To suppress their guilty conscience that they abandoned someone who they promised they'll always be there for, people come up with a defence mechanism that advocates cutting ‘toxic people’ from their lives. 

But was that friend toxic or was it his sadness that just needed your love and support? 

There are so many relationships and connections which ended in wrong fate just because someone who promised to stay gave up way too easily. Because eventually the person who needs more emotional attention starts to be looked upon as toxic and somebody who is draining the energy out of the other one. Is that so? Your partner, friend, or sibling, whosoever makes you feel that they need to be constantly reminded that life is beautiful did not choose to see otherwise. They did not choose to be sad and unsee all the wonderful blessings that life has to offer them. They are just lost somewhere in the dark and can't find a way out no matter how much they want to come out of that miserable state. All they need is someone who could torch some light to guide their way out. A voice that could map out a way for them. If you step into a connection where the other person is being felt that they do matter to you, then it's your basic duty to help that person out. A little effort from your part could bring life to someone who is supposed to matter to you. Giving up on the people you love, and calling people toxic because they are sad, is not and should not be an option. It's just an escape for the cowards who wouldn't want to be put at the place of those who are being abandoned.