With no offense to anyone I just want to share thoughts about daughter and bahu but in a light manner not something to be sad or serious. Yes Indian society is changing our culture is changing , thoughts of our generation is changing but this thing this mindset I think will still take lots of decades to change or may be century.  I  talking about being a daughter and bahu . There lies a big difference which is not going to change yet although somehow daughters are not no longer debt for parents . Parents brought them up with love , pampering all the emenities like their sons but the same parents don't change their thoughts for bahu's  (daughter in laws) in our society. Although  they say “bahu nahi beti leke ja rhein hain” but maybe this is something set in the mind or rooted deep inside .Like when kitchen or household work was not done by daughter in law they feel its bad and disrespectful for their son but tell me how a work  a household chore decides about respect isn't is so easy to disrespect someone's esteem then if it's related to own works only. Then comes dependency who is spending more who is earning more whose name is on the name plate of the house and many more. Expectations are also different they expect their daughter to be educated successful bt expect their daughter in law should be educated but not more than their son and successful word seems missing for daughter in laws . They can't be successful they should focus on family kids kitchen only . Although there are people who are not like that but I am talking about a basic scenario of the society. Moreover when comes the responsibility of kid that too should be done by daughter in law they can't see their daughter working alone taking care of kids alone and expect their son in law to help their daughter but don't want to let their son help his wife. Don't forget people this world is small and karma plays vital role in the life. How can you expect that energy you are transferring is not going to effect you or come back to you. What a mother goes through in nine months a man cannot that right because this is nature but atleast can we again think about responsibility of the father except being a financer for the family. This is not the only job they should expect to do if Expectations are high for daughter in laws than some responsibilities should be defined for father or son too and I am not talking about feminism, equality ,women impowerment. This is not an issue of feminism or empowerment please understand the difference between equality and equity. We are following western culture with so much excitement and love than know this that they have equity between man and woman there is nothing like daughter in law  type Expectations as in Indian society. I hope I am not offending any serious issues this is a presonal thought and with due respect to those families who love their daughter in laws its not about everyone its about something bad happening in any corner of the society  than we should talk about it and think about it atleast humanity deserves this.

Please read and comment and take it lightly as it's not for specific person it's a thought.

Thanks,

Konica