Every human being aspires to be successful in their God-given life. Often we don't recognize our inner self telling us to follow our dreams, analyzing the risk included. It is advised to listen to your elders since they have experiential knowledge but if you wish to take the road not taken it would not be appreciated much. It is the common nature of the elder ones to protect you, which explains why you are compelled to follow the mob.
The understatement to be successful is to fight your fear! You may be worried to follow your heart because you hate to be mocked upon by society. Look at all the successful individuals around you they never stopped even when they were teased, the reason behind this is simple they never gave up. They fought their fear, be it, public speaking, lack of confidence, failure, and so on, they fought their weakness.
Let's look into an example, when I was in school, to perform on the stage, my nervousness was quite explicit. Though I knew little about self-talk back then, I talked to myself to face the audience with confidence. I convinced myself it is just 100 people before and not the whole district nor the whole state, country, or the world. It's just me and a handful of people, this is how you build confidence. You need to soothe yourself which is where the importance of self-talk comes.
It is important to set aside a few hours every day to talk and understand your strength, your weakness, your flaws, and your victory. This aids in self-awareness and if you can't understand yourself you cannot expect others to know you better. When you sort your power and powerlessness, you act accordingly, and ultimately, you succeed.
Talking to oneself is not only therapeutic but is also a self-discovery of oneself. Solitude not only helps to be self-aware but also brings new ideas and creativity. Once you practice spending alone-time you recognize its importance in life and the vital role it plays in success.
Let's come back to where we started. Fear is inevitable but it could be managed when you confront it. The first step to face the fear is to be aware that you are fearful of something or someone. Once you realize it, know what instills fear in you. Maybe, you are not comfortable in a group or you fear the presentation which would happen in few minutes. Realize it! Only if you find the cause of fear you would be able to tackle the problem. If it's a lack of knowledge or fear of a mistake that is taking away your confidence, fight through it. Convince yourself you have prepared enough to face the questions and, say to yourself, no human being is perfect; mistakes could happen and the best way to deal with is to admit the mistake and move on.
Once you recognize the cause of your anxiety, talk to yourself and boost your confidence. Always talk to yourself first and then go for help if you cannot handle the fear.
Success doesn't come just by overcoming your fear, following it you need to work wholeheartedly in your venture. Once you overcome the mob attitude and fight the fear you need to be determined in your work to be successful. whenever you go wrong, use the self-talk mechanism to reassure that you need to learn from these failures to reach your final destination. Some of us may have cleared the anxiety and took a few steps forward but eventually, got demotivated and gave up. No successful man has given up unless he met his goal.
What does the story of Thomas Edison convey to us? He was called stupid by his teachers and before the invention of the bulb, he had several failures. He never gave up but, fought his fear and he remained self-determined until he became victorious. Edison is a role model to all of us who are frightened to take a step and work hard until the triumph.
After all these steps it might not be a difficult task to trust your strengths and your abilities. Never underestimate your talents and believe in yourself, no one else in this world can trust you as you trust yourself. This helps in building confidence too. If your inner self says that your next step requires a lot of time, trust it, and take your time for cognizance. Build patience and take your time to complete the task, rushing through may bring substandard results.
In a nutshell, success comes to you when you analyze your drawbacks and your positives through self-talk, by overcoming your fear, understanding the cause of fear, trusting yourself, and finally be determined to work hard until you meet success.
