Today parents and children both are getting more and more anxious and wrestles . This is something which is increasing with each passing days. Parents complain about their job tension, future of their children and their upbringing . Children are more wrestles these days.
In this blog I would share share some observations of a veteran doctor Dr. Nilanjana Sanyal and her take on this subject.
Why children are wrestles to such an extent that they cannot be controlled?
Today children are seen to suffer from too much of restlessness. They are so much active throughout the day and night that parents cannot understand how to tackle them properly. The main reason for this is that children are not getting the correct field of activities where they can shed out their energy. The entire day is lost in online activities which hardly make them tired physically. So there is a lot of physical energy saved in their body which makes them more wrestles.
Why parents cannot hide their anxiousness anymore?
Parents are very much tensed and anxious with their work life and they are too much stressed these days. They have to think about money, about the upbringing of their children and moreover children are very very wrestles these days. So tackling them is a hard task these days. But apart from these reasons the parents also spent a lot of time on mobile or laptop or other screen. which is also a reason for their stress and lack of concentration. Today parents are also not able to concentrate properly. That's because they are mostly exposed to the mobile screen. Even when they are not working they are frequently checking their mobile for more and more updates. These are the major reasons why parents cannot control their anxiety anymore. Children can make them anxious. But what are they themselves doing to them?
Why is the mobile videos so harmful to the children?
Let me first tell you about our childhood. I am in my thirties so you can guess my generation. In my childhood I used be surprised when I used to get the new books after i got promoted to a new class. I used to love the smell of the pages of my new books. Without anybody telling me, i used to start reading the first few chapters of the new books . Such was the excitement. This is because we did not have the screen teaching us lessons. Our books were stationary objects. But today children learn from online media, YouTube, screen etc. We are introducing them to these moving media . So when you ask a child to concentrate on books, they can hardly do that. They are more comfortable to the motion than the stationary form of learning. So this is doing a great deal of harm to the children. But we can hardly recognize the seriousness of this issue.
What's causing the lack of concentration in children and parents?
Its the same mobile world which is causing the lack of concentration in the children and the parents. They are not able to follow mindfulness. They cannot concentrate on the work which they are doing at a time. Today people are more bend to multitask. This is another critical issue of this generation. Multitasking is actually deviating you away from mindfulness. When you have to concentrate on a single work you are concentrating on 5 more work at the same time. This is creating a serious issue with the parents.
Moreover we are not practicing meditation or sitting quite for few minutes. We are also not teaching our children to meditate. Exercise and outdoor games is a must for children which should be remembered.
Case 1
A child came to the doctors chamber. The doctor told him. “ you are so bright and intelligent child , what causes you to be so wrestless?'”
The child answered the doctor. "Auntie…when I ride my bicycle and break all the pottery in the garden , I get some real joyful feelings in doing them.
Case 2
Another child came to the doctor and he was greeted the same way by the doctor. As an answer he told the doctor.." you know aunty when i break the glass crockery laid on the dinning table by my mother, the sound of that breaking glasses gives me certain kind of joy which I cannot explain."
Case 3
The Third case had a reply.." You know aunty, my parents quarrel a lot the whole day. They always go on accusing each other every time they meet each other. I get mad with their behavior. I feel like leaving my house and go somewhere else".
The first and second case obviously are similar and the doctor explains that these children suffer from mental illness, like ADHT and todays lifestyle is a major reason for this kind of diseases. The food habbit is also a reason for this. The food items like pastry, burger, pizza, pasta, maggie, biryani, col drinks, rolls gives a certain kind of instant pleasure to our mind and tongue. These food items create a restlessness in our body. So we should avoid them. Today children don't like to have sabji, roti or other simple food. But these are the food which can keep the children and the adults cool. So food habit plays an important role in our well being.
The third case is the most common case in the world now. The couples are always fighting and that's creating a problem in the mental condition of the children. So more than the children, the couples require a counselling session with the doctor. Today families are breaking each day and these are obvious reasons why children are facing issues with their life in the future.
Children has to lead a very disciplined lifestyle with mediation, games, outdoor activities, healthy food habits, happy parents, healthy neighborhood and surroundings… which needs to be taken care of . And this is not the responsibility of the parents only, its the joint responsibility of the society…..!!!
