Now when we talk about relationships we always think about the rosy side of the relationship. We like to talk about the happy, romantic and sweet moments that a relationship gives us. 

But this is what happens in the beginning few years of a relationship. After few years even if  there is love, passion and understanding, the dynamics of the relationship changes. And this happens for every single couple in a relationship or after marriage. 

Sometimes when a couple does not understand these dynamics it becomes very tough to maintain the relationship. And getting to understand these dynamics makes an ordinary couple live together for even 5o years or more. 

I have found some ways from my elders and experienced couples and also from my experience some ways of understanding these dynamics. I don't know how much you will agree but of course you will loose nothing if you follow them.

You have to nurture your relation

Like how we water the plant everyday and give the birds some food and water every day, we have also got to take care of our relationship by not speaking ill word to ours partners, not accusing them for each little thing, not defaming them.  A relationship requires constant care and understanding to sustain. But all of us loose patience in doing this and that is the reason our relationship suffers.

You have to understand the mind set up of your partner

Now this is a very difficult job. And the more you get to understand your partner, the more you can handle situations and problems in a relationship. For example if your husband does not like wasting too much money and you seem to know that, then the best thing to do is to prove to him that you also do not like wasting money. You have to show some examples to him so that he gets convinced about your saving attitude. 

You have to stop fighting if your partner is angry

It so happens that when a fight starts between a couple, both the partners shout together and accuse each other at the same time. That has to be stopped immediately. One of the partners have to stop temporarily for the sake of the relationship. And that's what wise couple predicts..

You have to take a considerable break

Yes, this is the most important point. You and ypour partner have to give yourself a break in whatever way possible. Suppose you are working from home from the same room in your house. Then you have to change the rooms or space. And sometimes couple has to go for a short break from each other . Like a wife can go to friends place or parents house or cousins house or sisters house..etc and the same with the husband. Sometimes this kind of breaks actually energies the relationship .

You have to go together for vacation with or without kids

This is a must. You can plan for a low budget or a high budget vacation, that's up to you. But going out for a vacation is a must for every one of us. The change actually gives us a peaceful ventilation which again boosts us up for the better.

You can also create fun for yourselves

Yes, like you can plan for going swimming together or any sports together. You can plan for a trekking. You can go to a an adventure ride. You can go for healing sessions. You can go to a spa. You can go to a holy place. You can go for meditation or Yoga together. These are actually helping to reduce the tension in the relationship.

If you ask me, I have followed some of these and going ahead to follow the rest. You decide which ones you like the most…

But relationship maintenance is always a puzzle solving , believe it or not…😊😊