Now to begin this topic there are some pointers that we need to check to understand if our relationships are good enough to be in it.

And there are some questions which i need to ask in this topic.

Which are the relationships that matter to you?

At first you need to understand who are the relations that matter to you. It could be anybody. But you need to understand the importance of those relationships with proper justification. We all have a lot of relationships be it neighbor , friend, relatives who don't help us every time but if their being in our lives do not cause harm then they are important. This is because they are a part of our society and we are social beings. 

Why do the relationships matter to you?

If you have already chalked out the relationships that matter to you then you would definitely have reasons why they are important to you. So your reasons must be sound enough to keep up with the relationship. 

Is there any stress or pressure in the relationship?

If in any relationship you feel always a kind of stress or pressure or tension then you should work on it. For example our mothers always scold us for doing the right things at the right time and we are always under pressure specially in our childhood with our mothers. But this pressure eventually makes us to grow into a proper human being. So we need to understand the stress properly. If the tension is for your good then you are the best person to judge that. And if the tension or stress is badly affecting your health and mental health then you got to be serious about the relationship.  

Are you able to communicate the pressure or stress in the relationship?

Now you have to be strong enough to communicate the pressure and stress in the relationship. If there is no ventilation or freedom in expressing the pressures in a relationship then you need to think about some help or solution. It happens many a times that many friends and connections are able to give us such advice that helps us to communicate with our relations properly. 

Do you have a support group ?

This is very important to have a support group who can understand and guide us to take the right decision in maintaining or communicating with our relations. Sometimes these groups helps us make our relationships better. So building such kind of a group is very important. 

Is it very often that you are stressed by the relationship?

If its very often that you are stressed by your relationship then you need to track and understand that. If you are unaware of the fact that the stress is your life is not caused by other sources but your relationship then you need to work on them. 

Have it been a long period that you could not get out of this stressful relationship?

If the time period of being in a stressful relationship has been a several year with no improvement even after giving a lot of effort then its time to rethink. 

Did you give effort to the relationship?

Now many of us are good at understanding toxicity in a relationship but we never make an effort to improve that. And efforts like consulting some friends or professionals on this subject, being patient with the relationship, giving love and polite treatment, taking a break or going for a vacation, etc. can help us in many times to make our relationships better.

Are you happier without the relationship?

If after all your effort you feel stress-free and tensionless without the relationship then  you might find a practuical solution to get out of it. But a little tension in every relationship is good for its well being. Like I said about our mothers. Our mothers give us stress in our childhood but that stress is only for our well being,  So try too understand the type of stress.