There was a time when married women dedicate their whole life to their husband and family ,it was years and years ago, when society expected married women to be in their line, not only society but also their born home and stepped-into home(MIL especially) and what not .
But this kind of practice is not extinct as of I know because Iam married still, a newly married though. The society and people are still the same , they want women to behave as they wish no matter how much degree she earned ,no matter how much she earns , some people don't want her to cross line that is the line which keeps her away from her dreams and wishes.
Society still the same , people still the same when in other countries people study crypto we still study the horoscope every morning. I don't accuse all the homes but what Iam trying to say is there are still homes that does it, there are still women who can't speak it out. So in this kind of society when we need to stay happy (because we deserve it) there are ideas to fight for your independence without actually fighting, what your orthodox parents won't teach you.
Women these days need to be independent that is financially independent, mentally independent, physically independent. There are women who still go through times they can't come out even though they are educated because women are not welcomed to keep their bothering forward to this society. So there are ideas to keep women off the worries and bothering they go through without actually opening up to anyone to save ourself because we deserve to be happy 😊.
As years pass , women are being educated . Use that education or implement them in any profession that's grows you. A strong profession keeps you distracted from the fact that you have issues in your life. Also keep growing in your profession that makes people respect you instead of making them focus on the issues. When you stay home you have no distraction so people concentrate on creating problems that will make you lose your peace. So distract yourself concentrating on your profession and its growth also when you earn and you feed the family people tend to respect you , hear to whatever your opinion is, this creates a environment of peace outside and within you too! Be financially independent.
2. NEVER STUFF ANYTHING IN YOUR MIND
Problems arise - people talk - you get hurt but never keep your tongue tied ,speak out whatever on your mind. At one point of time people get used to it, you get what you want only when you get to ask it. Yes, people tend to think you are not suitable to be a daughter-in-law but if you keep shut, you will keep experiencing it till the end. Never keep anything on your mind speak it out and forget about it, never bring up the same issue again and again. This keeps you straight forward guilt free and light hearted , no matter what the end will be you feel independent when you speak for yourself . Be emotionally independent!
3. STAY STRONG MENTALLY
You are matured enough to think for yourself , you know what you want for yourself , you can decide on things, when you are old enough to get married then you are matured enough to think and decide matters. Never trust people when they say you don't know anything we will take care, it's your family you can make a decision be it for your own sake or for family. People get to make you doubt your own decision but stay strong on it. Decide what you want to wear, decide when you want to have babies, decide when it's right for you to take career break, decide when to eat, decide on where to go when you want, decide when you want a haircut. Don't let people decide on your life, be independent even on making your own decisions. Be mentally independent!
These are only a blueprint of how you can stay happy and independent being married. But you can figure out so many other ways to help yourself. Marriage should not be a thing that keeps you away from your independence or dreams , even if so figure a way that keeps you to be yourself no matter what! You are capable of it. You deserve to be happy!😊
