Let's talk about something very important in this blog.
Can we, as a society for once stop assuming that men are by default strong and emotionless…? We assumed and framed them to be with no emotions, insecurities , shame , guilt or whatever…
They just portray them as strong both physically and mentally but deep down they are very much hurt. These scars and trauma are not from any outsider , it is from relatives, friends, cousins, teachers and even their own parents that these guys are carrying. We made them to act strong always as they are #boys , but do we have any idea what it will do to them if we don't acknowledge them and help them to share !?
All this results in having abusive or aloof and emotionless partners, brothers who act out their insecurities as toxic behavior, and sons who will disconnect from their families. They are not bad by birth we somehow directly or indirectly made them who they are. We just label them to be label naughty or rude or arrogant or aggressive without thinking of the consequences or how deep can it have impact!? There can be so many stories behind all that. It might be because anger is the only feeling they are allowed to express which turns out to be a toxic or abusive sometimes.
The thing is we need to disconnect strength from being emotionless. Both are very different. There's strength in being emotional and vulnerable too.
It is true only a strong person can keep these experiences in them and still live life with courage. But It takes even more strength in sharing such a dark part of their life. It takes more than that for a person to realize the trauma and want to be healed.
Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. This is a sign that you have a big heart and aren't afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength!!
Strength is something beyond muscle power. It is beyond what you can establish as control or anger or abuse. There's no point in having a 6 pack abs if you have poor mental health and a heart that needs healing.
On one hand Patriarchy has given men primary power and predomination, on the other hand it has killed not just the spirit of women, but also the vulnerabilities of men. It has harmed all of us equally. Men are not the villains. They are equally the victims of patriarchy. Let's support each other and grow together . Growing includes healing too.
This pandemic has been ruining our life, it is affecting us mentally beyond that we are aware of. But on the other hand, this private space and all other resources is helping a lot of us to discover so many things about oneself. Remember we can't go hide or bury something. So learn to deal this head on.
A big virtual hugs to all <3. Let's support each other and grow together Fam:) Hope you like this blog. Do share your thoughts in the comment section.
